Coaching Through the Clutter

It is easy to think that a Clutter Consultant and a Life Coach work in different, unrelated spheres of our lives. What I have realised is that the decluttering of objects in our external spaces is very often a catalyst for decluttering the thoughts within our internal spaces.

I find it fairly systematic to enter a space, address the objects through decluttering and then create harmony and flow as the objects are re-ordered and ‘homed’. Spaces end up clean and tidy and objects are easy to find.

What is not so systematic though, are the thoughts, feelings, dreams and powerful emotions that are unearthed as you sort, select, order and discard. The process of choosing to let go of something seemingly void of any attachments can stir the deeper recesses of our hearts; can trigger wells of thoughts that have long been suppressed in order to carry out the simple act of getting through the day.

As parents, our lives tend to become child-centric from the moment our little one’s take their first breath, perhaps even before. We push our own needs aside as all home time, spare time, holiday time and finances become focused on meeting their needs. Before you know it, you don’t know who you are or how you got to this point.

Don’t get me wrong – this can be a really fun process. Paint and balls and paintball; paint and glitter; glitter paint; cuddles and baking and giggles and sheer joy, sheer exhaustion. Eventually, it takes its toll – the merry-go-round of meal planning and playdates; gift buying and rollerskates; avamys and flixonase; tomato sauce and mayonnaise. There seems to be no ‘off’ button. It is easy to get stuck in a rut.

This is often where the new haircut happens. A ritualistic letting go of sorts that signifies a new beginning. Decluttering often happens when you can no longer live in the current state. You’ve seen it, acknowledged it and finally, something has to give. The process of decluttering homes becomes something of a rite of passage, if you will, as you come out the other side with renewed energy and a fresh perspective on life. At least for a while. Before long, the new haircut and newly ordered home are just a band-aid over a deeper abyss of thoughts and longing.

The abyss is that unsettled, nagging feeling that something isn’t right; that you aren’t where you are supposed to be. Where are the dreams and plans? Where are you on the merry-go-round? This is the internal clutter which is hard to tune into when you are juggling meetings, lift clubs, and countless cellphone alerts.

This is where a Life Coach can be highly beneficial. We help you to assess where you are, where you want to be, and how you can get there, all within a positive and productive framework. We help you to map out your goals realistically, thus allowing you to allocate more energy to the things that bring you joy, such as spending time with family or friends. We remain objective. We are your accountability partners. You take the reins of your life and plot your way out of the abyss and into the light.

“We can easily forgive a child who is afraid of the dark; the real tragedy of life is when men are afraid of the light.”